As far as my memory goes, I had never missed a Qingming’s tomb-cleaning since 6 or 7 years old… not until this year.

My family members were all in Ipoh during the weekend for the annual routine; I was supposed to be back as well, but some unexpected web hosting problem had put my websites (not this one, but other more crucial income sources) into jeopardy… I had to weigh the importance and decided to stay back in KL to curb with the hosting issue.

Not really sure how I’m feeling now… a bit guilt feeling perhaps, as I often see Qingming as important (if not more important) as Chinese New Year. A bit moody too, Qingming often reminded me of my father and my grandmother… it’s not sadness, just a lot of thinking and memories-flashing.

Hmmmmmmm… I dunno, life goes on, tomorrow will be a better day.



8 Responses to “Qingming”

  1. alice Says:
    March 26th, 2007 at 9:02 pm

    don’t feel guilty, Jee.
    they understand your situation.

  2. Jee Says:
    March 26th, 2007 at 11:11 pm

    alice… it’s not really guilt. I am sure there is a better word for my feeling, but it’s hard to describe… as if I am missing something important… a kind of sorrow but not really sad.

    Anyway, I am not that kind of people that go moody for days; normally a nice sleep and a good meal will cure even the toughest depression lol.

  3. lightfl Says:
    March 27th, 2007 at 6:04 pm

    Life still keep going…work is never ending…but the precious time and opportunity with family shld nvr to be missed…:) my own opinion

  4. Jee Says:
    March 27th, 2007 at 10:18 pm

    Well… can’t call tomb-cleaning a precious family time don’t we lol?

  5. RM Says:
    March 29th, 2007 at 9:03 am

    Find hard for me on this event esp if u don’t know the deceased..related like ’cause it grandma/grandpa as knowing them while they are alive spending time with them….

    i feel it abit funny with the photos staring at you wherever u walk.

    remember most of time in chinese cemertry, can’t find the tomb, lol parents will call out =”where are you”..ha ha

    now we are Christians and my parents are buried in Christian cemetry..it so much easier to locate the tombs…. not stating that u have to b buried in a Christian cemetry..but then again it’s worth a thought . what say u guys?.

  6. Jee Says:
    March 29th, 2007 at 10:50 pm

    RM… I’ve never actually heard anyone calling out “where are you” during Qingming… next time if I heard it I will answer them that “I’m here” for sure :p

    Old Chinese cemetry are quite disorganized as you mentioned, but the newer cemetry are pretty well managed actually (but pretty expensive too).

  7. ganchan Says:
    April 14th, 2007 at 4:00 pm

    I’m not very fond of Qing Ming (or “Cheng Beng”, as we Hokkiens call it) especially in its current form. To me it represents the best and worst of Chinese culture – the reverence of one’s ancestors and the tendency of excess and exploitative materialism….
    I hope that when my time as come, I get cremated and put in a small urn in some easily accessible and air conditioned columbarium… preferably in a temple that has ISO14001 or something like that (so that there is no excessive burning of offerings that contribute to more greenhouse gases)….

  8. Jee Says:
    April 15th, 2007 at 10:46 pm

    ganchan… I can see your point. Some of the Chinese culture are pretty unreasonable indeed…


Leave a Reply

All the above fields are optional


Related Entries

No related posts